Last weekend I saw the documentary “The Secret” and although I couldn’t keep my mind to this long-winded very materialistic-oriented story, the essence became clear. Everything will happen if your set your mind to it. So we rightly say ‘Be careful what you wish for’. How can we prevent staying in the vicious circle of negative thoughts and turn to a positive way of thinking?
At times we all are angry or said. Fortunately we can learn not be controlled by our emotions. So before you break something out of anger or powerlessness, understand that your emotion is a sate of mind and the thing you break can be broken forever. Better act in an opposite way, such as singing instead of cursing or think of something nice to say to someone instead of shouting. Try to control the breath through pranayama (e.g. nadi shodana) or meditate on a comforting mantra or pet your cat or dog.
In other words stay equanimous. Emotions can wear you down or raise you up, either way equanimity is a better option. Equanimity in the Bhagavad Gita:
3.19 Therefore, without being attached to the fruits of activities, one should act as a matter of duty, for by working without attachment one attains the Supreme.
3.27. All activities are carried out by the three modes of material nature. But in ignorance, the soul, deluded by false identification with the body, thinks itself to be the doer.
3.28 One who is in knowledge of the Absolute Truth does not engage himself in the senses and sense gratification, knowing well the differences between work in devotion and work for fruitive results.
Teacher Johan Noorloos once suggested that we should write a letter to ourselves in a year from now. A very nice assignment which gives you a serious look at what you would like to accomplish in a year. Write your story as your own best friend. You may think big!
The Wolves Within
An old Grandfather, whose grandson came to him with anger at a schoolmate who had done him injustice, said, “Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.” He continued, “It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit.” The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked, “Which one wins, Grandfather?” The Grandfather solemnly said, “The one I feed.”
A Native American tale told many times around the Sacred Fire.